WELCOME TO HOTEL P
We’re two weeks into Hotel P and almost two groups of visitors through our crazy August visiting season and I am pretty irritated by this week’s guests. They could really teach us a lesson or two in frugalism! It raises the question though, when does being frugal impact on other people as tight-fisted and is there a time when it is not ok to exercise frugalism with others?
These guests I could not class as friends, or as people I know. I met them a few years ago when I first moved here and they are currently making their holiday out of traveling through Europe, staying only with friends, couchsurfing or sleeping in their car/camping when none of the other options are available.
The reason why I got irritated first is, because I found out that the reason they wanted to stay with us is because one of them needs to sit an exam here in the city tomorrow. I was not told this straight out. They constantly meet with other friends and are only really using us as a place to eat and sleep and chat to us only when their other friends do a no-show. Talk about using someone!
They don’t put their hand in their pocket for groceries and just last night said that they hoped that their hosts would “look after them and bring them out to eat and buy drinks for them”. When I said in the nicest way possible that I won’t be doing that, the response was “well, I guess that will be cheaper for you then”. Rage! They eat every slice of lemon and every grain of salt given to them, no exaggeration. I think this is the only weekend ever where I am counting down to going back to work on Monday.
What’s worse is that they told us that they are saving €2000 a month between them – far more than we are able to (and so could well afford to stay in a hotel). The girl has beautiful clothes and extremely expensive beauty products. I only let them stay because this person really begged me to let them (confession: I ignored them twice) and with a soft heart I gave in and let them. I think I can’t do this again!
I have had couchsurfers stay with me before years ago, with no problems. Really grateful people. These last few weeks with non-stop visitors it feels more like they are just trying to have a cheap holiday at my house. What is also irritating is people arriving to the house unwell – TMI warning! (conjunctivitis and thrush) I have been on top hygiene alert for my poor boyfriend and I. This is so stressful! And it is irritating to receive comments such as “the last time I stayed at your house I got a verucca” (neither I nor my boyfriend have veruccas!?) and complaints that the food I cook give upset stomachs… Readers. If you ever check out my menu plan, you will see that I really cook, and not junk and my house gets cleaned weekly and my bath almost after every use.
I think as a guest you should bring a suitable gift for your host depending on the amount of time you are staying there (doesn’t have to be expensive) and/or to treat them to dinner for their kindness of letting you stay at their home, and not that the host should always have to be the person wining and dining their guests. I mean this particularly for prolonged stays of more than a weekend. Similarly, our last guest also did not put their hand in their pocket the whole time for things like this. It is also fine for the guest to offer to cook them dinner or breakfast in their home, but not to use up all the host’s own food in doing this.
I would love to know how you deal with these more difficult visitors. Do you have specific rules for how long they can stay? Does other people’s frugality bother you? I am always really interested to read your comments!